Understand Your Communication Style

Have you ever been talking to someone, and you felt like they just weren’t understanding what you were saying?

Or maybe you’re are in a relationship with someone, whether it’s a romantic relationship, friendship, or professional relationship and you can’t believe the other person NEVER asks your thoughts. Or the flip side. You feel like you have to PRY thoughts out of them.

One more. Have you ever been in an important conversation with someone and ended up talking over each other? Almost as though you’re in a dance where BOTH OF YOU are trying to lead?

Turns out that understanding your communication style and the style of other important people in your life can help you communicate more effectively and effortlessly. That’s what we’re talking about today.

Today we’re diving into a model that is over 3 decades old, but I still find it so useful. It’s the Social Styles of Communication model. In this model, there are 2 different continuums that divide people into 4 different communication styles. We’ll go over all of that in this episode, and we’ll talk about how you can more effectively communicate with other important people in your own life.

Additional Resources:

  1. Episode 0311 with Peter Montoya about having effective political conversations:
  2. Episode 0138 with AmyK Hutchens about handling some of our toughest conversations with empathy and intention:

In this episode, we will identify a number of types of communication styles. You might find encounter a passive-aggressive communication style, a manipulative communication style, or a submissive communication style. How does one express their feelings and engage in active listening when they encounter an assertive communication style without becoming sidelined or left behind. Facial expressions, body language, and the silent treatment are also ways that may seem passive on the surface but it’s important to understand that this may not be a passive communication style at all. Whether it’s with family, friends, or team members, communication skills, especially when dealing with a passive-aggressive style, can be tougher than just making eye contact and taking turns speaking.