Have you ever heard the saying, “Can’t never could”? It turns out there’s more wisdom to unlock your potential in that little nugget than you might realize.
How often do you find yourself thinking or saying, “I can’t”?
Maybe it’s that you can’t do a skill or go to some place or have a certain experience for whatever reason.
I’m sure your mind has a reason or two, but have you ever stopped to question, though, just how accurate that statement might be?
I used to think:
“I can’t run a clinic.” Now I have a successful private practice.
“There’s no way I could run five miles. I can’t do it.” I’ve done six (so far).
“I can’t build a website.” I’ve built three.
I am living proof that “can’t” does not have to hinder all areas of your life. It took me a long time to learn that, though. I spent too much time believing the can’ts, without question, taking them as fact. Learn from my mistakes. These negative thoughts stop your forward momentum. Don’t let them.
The Problem with Can’t
The thoughts about what we can’t do come from a number of places – the internalized voices of others, disbelief about our capabilities, lack of trust in our capacity to grow and learn, lack of example or lack of knowledge that it’s even theoretically possible, wherever they are coming from they have the same effect: our brains shut down and don’t even try.
Let me say that again. When we say “I can’t _____,” our brains hear:
“Oh, that’s not possible. Don’t bother trying to question, problem-solve, or figure out a way to make it happen. It’s not possible. It’s a waste of time.”
Because our brains are designed to be efficient, they don’t like to waste time (or, more accurately, energy), so they stop even trying. The result? You can’t, in fact, do it.
That result, though, is not necessarily inevitable. What if that can’t isn’t a fact? What if, like my examples, it could be changed into a can?
Changing Can’ts Into Cans
To help make that happen, try this little tweak. Instead of saying “I can’t” say “How can I.”
“I can’t ask for what I want” becomes “How can I ask for what I want?”
“I can’t eat healthy” becomes “How can I eat healthy?”
“I can’t write a blog post” becomes “How can I get this post written?”
“I can’t get through all these emails” becomes “How can I get through all these emails? I know! Maybe I can sort by email address.”
All of sudden, you’ve thrown a problem at that beautiful brain of yours, and it loves to solve problems.
Instead of shutting down, game over, the wheels will start spinning, and you may just find a solution that opens up a whole new avenue for you.
Give it shot!
You can! Say it again… you can!
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“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right.”
– Henry Ford