Using Emotional Intelligence to Set Compassionate Boundaries 

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We all know that we need to set boundaries in our lives in order to protect our own time and energy, but wow can it be hard to do! Sometimes we feel selfish for cutting other people off and not allowing them the time, energy, and resources we know we just can’t provide.  

However, as tough as it can be to set boundaries, it’s absolutely necessary. 

In this episode of the podcast, we’re speaking with Carley Hauck. Carley is a learning architect, leadership development consultant, author, speaker, and serves as adjunct faculty at Stanford University and UC Berkeley Haas School of Business teaching on the subject of leadership and business as a platform for positive change in the world. 

In this episode, Carley talks about: 

  • The power of naming our emotions and how it can help us move through unpleasant emotions. “Name it to tame it” 
  • Emotional intelligence & the fact that there are no unacceptable emotions 
  • What compassionate boundaries are and how to set them 
  • The role anger plays in setting a boundary 

Finally, Carley gives a step-by-step way to approach setting compassionate boundaries to begin using them as a way to protect yourself, particularly in times that are as volatile and ever-changing as our current situation. 

The bottom line, you are an asset to everyone in your life. And because of that, you need and deserve some protection. Setting intentional, compassionate boundaries is one key way to do just that. 

Take part in Carley’s 2-part free workshop at 

When we encounter relationships, with partners, friends, and family as well as co-workers it’s hard to be assertive without offending. Carley helps set healthy boundaries, brings balance, copes with toxic people and enjoy rewarding relationships with partners at work and at home. His book on boundaries goes beyond the common power struggles (anxiety, depression, burnout) and successfully express yourself in order to achieve work/life balance. His methods help us set boundaries, find peace, and grow as people, co-workers and friends.


Facial Coding and Emotional Intelligence

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Those who have high emotional intelligence also have a skill of so-called face-coding that gives them significant advantages.

When someone asks you, “How are you feeling today?” How do you typically answer?  

If you’re like many of us, you answer with a simple, “Good.” But, that doesn’t convey nearly the entire story, does it? 

The fact is, we experience incredibly complex emotions, and our ability to recognize our own emotions and the emotions of others is called emotional intelligence, and it’s what we’re focusing on with this week’s guest. 

Those with strong emotional intelligence (EI) can better detect human emotions and some of this is done through facial expression analysis happening subconsciously. Those that want to understand emotional intelligence and why it can matter can evaluate levels of emotional intelligence and even measure it using an emotional quotient (EQ) which some believe matters more than IQ. When we understand and manage emotional recognition, market research shows high EQ leads to more socially-skilled, successful people.

This week, we’re speaking with Dan Hill. He’s an internationally recognized expert on the role of emotions in politics, business, sports, and pop culture. He’s spoken to audiences in over 25 countries, and to capture and quantify emotions, Dan pioneered the use of facial coding (the analysis of facial expressions) with his company Sensory Logic

Dan is also the author of the book “Famous Faces Decoded: A Guidebook for Reading Others,” which we dive into during our conversation. 

We also talk about: 

  • What emotional intelligence is and how it relates to many facets of life 
  • Facial coding and the 23 different emotional markers on our faces.
  • The specificity we can get to when we label emotions. BTW, did you know there are SEVEN different types of anger? 
  • Finally, Dan gives us numerous examples of famous people and their “signature emotions” and how to recognize them in their expressions. 

This was such a fascinating conversation, particularly when you think about it from the context of how strongly it impacts our day-to-day lives. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! 


Building Emotional Intelligence with Rich Bracken

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I’m sure you’ve heard about emotional intelligence and how important it is to psychological strength.  

Today, we’re talking to an expert in the domain of emotional intelligence, and I have to say, it was such a deep, actionable conversation.  

Today, we’re talking with Rich Bracken. Rich is a motivational speaker, fellow podcast host, and an expert in the area of emotional intelligence. He travels all over the globe helping people and companies understand what the Emotional Quotient (EQ) is, why it’s important to understand and manage emotional intelligence, why it can matter more than IQ, and how we utilize it to our advantage.

There are a number of levels of emotional intelligence that speak to your cognitive ability, how well you manage your emotions, your ability to learn, and to see the world from another point of view. High emotional intelligence (EI) means more than just being socially skilled, it’s a metric for positive mental health if we pay attention to the right markers.

This is going to be a treat! 

Today’s conversation hit on so many incredible topics, like:  

  • What EQ really is. Rich gives the clearest, most concise definition I’ve ever heard. 
  • How self-awareness is the first step toward developing emotional intelligence 
  • What triggers are, how to identify them, and how to “flip” them 
  • A word of caution about labeling emotions as “inappropriate” (I really learned something here!) 
  • How expressing emotions can deepen our relationships with other people 
  • The importance of reflective journaling, music, and setting good boundaries in developing healthy emotional intelligence 

 I absolutely can’t wait for you to hear this episode because EQ is something that impacts every single day of our lives. Enjoy!