What’s so amazing is that these two things can coexist. You can be both a WILD SUCCESS at work and a work-in-progress at the same time.
Think about how far you’ve come.
Truly. If you’re in the Peak Mind community (or you’re reading this post), you’re the type of person who believes in intentionally working to better themselves.
Think about all the progress you’ve made since you started your journey. Now think about the work you still have left to do.
Ashley and I are very open about the fact that we walk the Peak Mind walk. Every single technique we tell you to try is one that we are using on ourselves.
I’ve also been very open about the fact that I suffered from postpartum depression and anxiety after my first daughter was born. It was BRUTAL.
Now, in my opinion, not enough people open up and talk about PPD/A, but what really doesn’t get any mention at all is that, even after you’re over PPD/A, they can leave nasty side-effects. Scars morph into open wounds at a moment’s notice.
Mine came in the form of PTSD. You read that right. I found myself dealing with post-traumatic stress as a result of going through postpartum depression and anxiety. And I am not alone. For many mom’s PPD/A can present with PTSD, and it can feel nearly impossible to manage one, let alone the other.
Talk about a double-whammy.
I was left with a set of triggers that, when present, would cause a near panic attack. Not only that, but the anxiety I experienced merely at the potential of it happening, ruined my ability to enjoy time alone with my kids. So not only was it tough to be alone, but it was tough to be alone with my kids. This feels like an impossible situation when you are a mother with a husband who has a demanding career.
You see, my husband is an ER physician, and I am frequently with the kids by myself on the weekend because he is working long shifts.
There’s no question about his successes in the workplace but job satisfaction can be a mixed bag, especially with a job description that doesn’t include work/life balance. Physicians are often viewed as successful people, but there are times when looking at the big picture, we might have been happy if he worked in a big corner office instead of the long-term stresses of the ER.
The mere idea of spending an entire weekend alone with my kids, with a good chance that I’d run into one of the triggers that caused such a painful reaction, brought on negative thoughts and made me so proactively anxious that I couldn’t even enjoy my weekend.
Now, here’s the really cool part. It didn’t happen this weekend. Zero anxiety about the thought of a weekend with little to no help.
That is the first time in over 4 years that I could say that, and I have worked so hard to get here. We can’t define success by how we feel one time, but I know that I have the ability to succeed and overcome my PTSD because I am on the right path. Day by day it gets better.
There’s really no telling why it didn’t happen this weekend, other than it’s something I have been treating and managing since its diagnosis. This made me feel really accomplished. Like my efforts meant something. Like my hard work hasn’t been all for naught. I still have work to do, but wow, did I celebrate!
Celebrate Your Progress
If you’re anything like me, you’re so focused on the path forward that as soon as you make progress or accomplish something, you’re already on to the next thing.
There is nothing wrong with continuing to make progress. Part of this is going the extra mile for ourselves and being open to constructive criticism. I firmly believe that self-improvement and psychological strength building is a lifelong pursuit. To find true success, begin with the first step and check out ASCEND, our comprehensive psych building program to help you on your journey. This will put you on the path to overcoming whatever is holding you back and help you achieve success in life.
However, please, take one moment today to congratulate yourself.
The progress you’ve made is worthy of a few moments of reflection and celebration. You can have a vibrantly transformative relationship with yourself once you’re on the path to success.
Take just a few moments to play around with this question:
What would my life have been like today if I hadn’t started when I did?
Where would you be today? What would life look and feel like? How about your relationships? Your communication skills? Your confidence level? Your resilience?
Celebrating the little wins is the first key to success.
It’s amazing, isn’t it?!
Tonight, we celebrate!
So on this Sunday evening, I’m celebrating. I’m celebrating your progress, my progress, and the combined progress of this community.