Are You Living by Design or Default?

05.05.20 02:52 AM By Peak Mind

ARE YOU LIVING BY DESIGN OR DEFAULT?

29 years ago today, my dad died from colon cancer.


That experience was one of the most impactful experiences of my life, but for more reasons than the obvious.


One of the biggest things I learned from that experience is the importance of TIME and HOW WE CHOOSE TO SPEND IT. 


At some point, our time will run out. This is the one certainty we can count on in life.


And how we choose to spend our time between now and then is of critical importance.


I want you to keep that in mind as you read on.


Where we are now.

We thought we were in volatile, uncertain times before, but if you're anything like me, you're noticing an up-tick in volatility these days as...


Some states begin to reopen...


Other states remain on lock-down...


Small businesses announce their closures...


Unemployment payments are sporadically given out...


Friends and family members hold differing opinions about all of that.


It can begin to feel like everything is out of control.


But here's the thing: Much of that is out of our control, and unfortunately, those are the things we tend to focus on. 


However, there is so much that is inside our control, yet that's not where we put our focus. We have so much control over how we experience our days, and that, my friends, is where Life Design comes in.


What is Life Design?

Life Design is an approach that helps us live intentionally by designing our life experience using the 'human-centered design' process.


Human-centered design is the approach that businesses use to create products that we LOVE. 


The Instant Pot. The iPhone. And so many more.


The process begins by getting to know the people at the center of the design project. Once we know them (their values, needs, goals, barriers, etc), we can design specifically for them.


Life Design takes this very same approach and applies it to YOUR LIFE!


We get to know you at an intimate level, and using that depth of knowledge, we begin to apply it to different facets of your life.


The result is a life that feels custom-tailored for YOU. Because it was!


It sounds powerful because it is. This is why it's such a big component of our core psych strength program, ASCEND. We know first-hand the power of Life Design and are weaving it into everything we do at Peak Mind.


The Opportunity is NOW.

Believe it or not, we have an amazing opportunity to practice Life Design right now.


As many of us move into the next chapter of our lives, we have the ability to question the aspects of our 'old lives' that weren't quite right for us. 


We can also design new elements of our lives that are better aligned to who we truly are.


Now is the time to be doing this work.


It's time to get honest about what was, and WASN'T, working for us and how we want our next chapter to be different.


It's time to think through what these changes should optimally look like, identify likely barriers to these changes happening, and establish support systems to help make them a reality.


It's time to start living by design, not by default. 

 



"Many of the things in our lives are a direct result of choices we have made. Active or passive, 
they're choices none the same. If you want a different result, it's time to start making a different choice."

 

 

Dr. Ashley Smith photo


Written by Dr. April Seifert

Peak Mind Co-founder

Peak Mind

Peak Mind Co-founders Peak Mind: The Center for Psychological Strength